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It was hardly a couple of days back, I was talking to one of my juniors from school. She is on the verge of completing a professional course from a highly reputed institute. I had known her to be one of the “promising ones”. Good at studies, good at co-curricular activities; in short one could see the signs of personality in making. And indeed she did very well. At a point where one can only think of the glorious life/career ahead of the road that was chosen for the success only…

…she took a turn. A turn which left me speechless.

She said, she is going to get married. It has been arranged. She has never met the guy, but has seen his photograph and had a talk once over the phone. She is not accepting the job offer she has because of the marriage. She is extremely happy about the marriage. In fact, she was hurt when I said that I’m sorry for her. I know, I shouldn’t have said that. But, it happened so effortlessly that it couldn’t be helped. She is planning everything now to spend a lifetime with her to be husband. We all try to work hard. She also worked hard. The only apparent difference seems to be the objective. Here, the objective was probably to find a groom, whom the society will respect. It may seem that the objective was of the subject itself. But, with a little bit of more common sense, it seems that the objective is actually of her society.

What is pathetic about this is that this person has never known independence in her life probably. What a shrewd way bringing up a child.

I’m not supposed to comment on someone like this esp. when everyone directly related is happy about it. But, it’s a shock to a society that is developing to be more “social”.

Is there a solution to this???

Reminds of the famous song

“…………………………………………………………….

How many years can some people exist,

before they’re allowed to be free?

And how many times can a man turn his head,

and pretend that he just doesn’t see?

The answer my friend is blowing in the wind,

the answer is blowing in the wind.

How many times must a man look up,

before he sees the sky?

And how many ears must one man have,

before he can hear people cry ?

And how many deaths will it take till we know,

that too many people have died?

The answer my friend is blowing in the wind,

the answer is blowing in the wind.”

Bob Dylan

(“Hoping that reservation for women will bring some positive changes and won’t just be another quota politics”)

P.S.: This blog is not targeted to hurt on any person, society, culture, feelings etc. etc. It is completely a personal viewpoint.

© Asitav

3 thoughts on “Untitled

  1. U've changed my pic like anything…i'll say its now looking much better 🙂
    Regarding the article on junior…if she says she is happy…i think either she is lying or else she doesnt want to see her life/society in a diff way. her parents are all and end in her life…its surprising but people call it CULTURE And u hide away ur feelings 🙂

  2. Yep..
    What is worse is that the man (the to be hubby) is a lecturer of a leading engg. institute. What can we expect from his "taughts", the future?

  3. dear all above,

    I am the girl u r talking about…

    I am speechless about ur comment on the article….like “her parents are all and end in her life…its surprising but people call it CULTURE And u hide away ur feelings” /”What is worse is that the man (the to be hubby) is a lecturer of a leading engg. institute. What can we expect from his “taughts”, the future?”

    but thanks to share ur views on my family culture and my thoughts 😀

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